The quality of your relationships is one of, if not the most important area of your life – and in determining whether or not you will be successful. If you want to live a life of excellence, you must take care of your relationships. The main relationships you should focus on are the ones between you and your significant other, your family, and your friends.
But those aren’t the only relationships you have. You should also take care of your relationships with your co-workers, neighbors, colleagues in your industry, and even with people you don’t know yet but who do know you (the people you influencing even without your knowledge). All of these people play a part in helping, or hurting your progress toward living excellently. It’s very important to make a good first impression on those who could influence your future, and to gain and maintain the respect of those whom you already know. By doing so these people will help, rather than hinder your progress towards becoming a success. As you take care of your relationships with these people by always being honest, maintaining consistent and polite communication with them, and offering help if and when you are able to, they will help open doors and make introductions to other people that will benefit you in unexpected ways.
Take Care of Your Relationships -
Especially The One With Your Significant Other
The most important and influential relationship you will have is the one with your significant other. This can also be one of the more difficult relationships to maintain at a high level. It’s almost always the case that the person we’re closest to and who is most important to us, is also the one we neglect the most and take for granted. Don’t fall into that trap. You must take care of your relationship with your significant other intentionally, consistently, and lovingly.
When this relationship isn’t doing well, the other areas of your life will suffer as a result. If your significant other does support you, or is angry with you, or can’t communicate well with you, then your journey down the road of excellence will be long, slow, and full of twists, turns, potholes, and detours. However, if your relationship with your significant other is thriving, then your road of excellence will straighten out, the potholes will be filled in, and the speed limit will increase.
Think about it this way: If you do not have a significant other, then your road of excellence will be a “normal” one with one-lane, some twists, turns, and pot-holes with an average speed limit. You can still drive on it and get to where you want to go, no doubt about it. But you can only go so fast, there isn’t much room for error (or else you’ll go off the road), and you’ll hit every bump and pothole along the way – so your vehicle will take quite a beating. If you have a significant other to travel with you, then that road will change either for the better or worse, but it definitely won’t be the same.
If the relationship is a good one, then they will be there to challenge you and push on the gas and speed up when you get too comfortable and are going too slow, stand behind you by taking the wheel when you get tired, support you by helping you navigate, and avoid damaging your vehicle by helping you watch out for pot holes and road blocks as you are work towards your goals together. They act like shock absorbers that helps smooth out the ride even when you do hit the bumps, be there to hand you the tools you need when there is a little maintenance necessary with constructive criticism and advice, and be there to celebrate with you every time you reach one of your goals.
But if the relationship isn’t a good one, then they will distract you so that you hit more pot holes and take wrong turns, criticize your driving style and navigational skills with their lack of trust, and make the ride uncomfortable by turning the radio to a station with music you don’t like and making the temperature too hot or too cold with arguments, criticism, and disrespect. If you are currently in a relationship, you probably know exactly what I mean. If you aren’t, then just take my word for it and I’m sure you’ll find out soon enough.
The bottom line is that you need to take care of your relationships – especially the one with your significant other. When you do, then your travel down the road of excellence will be faster and smoother and more enjoyable. If you need to take a pit stop to work on your relationship a little bit before continuing…then pull over and get started. Once it’s in good shape once again, get back behind the wheel, strap in and get ready for a great ride as you get out there and LEED!